Open Relationships

[Y.A.G Si Ye Nots]

Late last night, I received a message on Tinder (you married guys don't know what you're missing out on without Tinder and Bumble). It was an attractive girl who wrote "it says I am only two miles from you."

It ended up being a married girl who was in a hotel a couple of miles away. She is married, came to this city for a date, but she didn't like the guy. So, she found me and wanted to meet. She is in an open relationship. They both are educated, have normal jobs, are an attractive couple, and have two young boys.

I asked questions about it - they never bring a third wheel in with them. It's always just him with another woman or her with a guy. They talk about their "dates" with each other. She said she sometimes does get jealous, especially if she sees pictures and the girl is really attractive, but she finds it worth it for both of them.

I am not necessarily knocking them for it. If it works for them, then great. I just have trouble digesting it knowing I wouldn't be able to do it. At the same time, I think they (and most of the others who are in these kinds of relationships) are able to separate what is important from things that aren't as important. They love each other, want to be with each other, but they realize that sexual attraction and desires exist for most people outside of relationships. They also know that, at least biologically, guys aren't made for long term single partners.

I think it is still very taboo in society, but the couples that do it seem to have a very happy lifestyle sexually and otherwise.

 

[big_country90]

Before this thread gets out of hand...did you bang her?

 

[herdfan06]

 

[i am herdman]

No way that can be happy on the long run. That is a disaster in the making.

As for you. Be careful if you ever are tempted. Nothing good can come of it.

You could get shot. Get herpes. Show up and it is a dude. Show up and the husband is hiding and hits you with a crow bar. Husband is hiding and slams his Johnson in your ass. Or, the woman is bat shit crazy and is a stalker or worse cuts your Johnson off with a butcher knife.

 

[-CarlHungus-]

I only know one acquaintance who had a very similar set up with his wife. They had kids just like this lady you met.

The open relationship thing “worked” for a while but inevitably ended in divorce. Of course lots of monogamous marriages do as well.

It’s all anecdotal of course, but I’m with Herdman - it’s not a long term recipe for success in terms of both the husband/wife or the kids.

I’m far from a sociologist or evolutionary biologist but it’s not just that it’s “taboo” - it’s that my gut (and maybe data?) tells me it’s that monogamy across different cultures and religions seems to establish the strongest household unit long term.

As for your experience , I may be wrong here, but I think you’re getting a form of selection or survivorship bias. The only people that want to talk about their open relationship success are those for whom it is “working.” They’re on Tinder. No one wants to talk about the disaster that was their relationship where they tried the open thing and it didn’t work and exploded in a hellish disaster that scarred them.

I’m with Herdman - steer clear. You’re too successful with women to deal with this kind of set up.

 

[sistersville]

Late last night, I received a message on Tinder (you married guys don't know what you're missing out on without Tinder and Bumble). It was an attractive girl who wrote "it says I am only two miles from you.
It ended up being a married girl who was in a hotel a couple of miles away. She is married, came to this city for a date, but she didn't like the guy. So, she found me and wanted to meet. She is in an open relationship. They both are educated, have normal jobs, are an attractive couple, and have two young boys.

I asked questions about it - they never bring a third wheel in with them. It's always just him with another woman or her with a guy. They talk about their "dates" with each other. She said she sometimes does get jealous, especially if she sees pictures and the girl is really attractive, but she finds it worth it for both of them.

I am not necessarily knocking them for it. If it works for them, then great. I just have trouble digesting it knowing I wouldn't be able to do it. At the same time, I think they (and most of the others who are in these kinds of relationships) are able to separate what is important from things that aren't as important. They love each other, want to be with each other, but they realize that sexual attraction and desires exist for most people outside of relationships. They also know that, at least biologically, guys aren't made for long term single partners.

I think it is still very taboo in society, but the couples that do it seem to have a very happy lifestyle sexually and otherwise.

I Have read those couples usually crash and burn.

 

[sistersville]

I Have read those couples usually crash and burn.

Rifle you don't need anything to do with that stuff. You may be an atheist but I believe you are a straight shooter. No way you will get involved with that. You need to get a woman that is your best friend and marry her. Have a couple boys. Both will wind up signing with WVU. Been married 38 yrs rifle. She literally puts my socks on. I have it made. Good woman will make you lazy. Her recent picture with her new haircut she looks like she is 40. Wish I knew how to copy and paste. I'm proud of her.

 

[Marine03]

Nope, wouldn’t do it and I have no idea how people can do it.

 

[Marine03]

Rifle you don't need anything to do with that stuff. You may be an atheist but I believe you are a straight shooter. No way you will get involved with that. You need to get a woman that is your best friend and marry her. Have a couple boys. Both will wind up signing with WVU. Been married 38 yrs rifle. She literally puts my socks on. I have it made. Good woman will make you lazy. Her recent picture with her new haircut she looks like she is 40. Wish I knew how to copy and paste. I'm proud of her.

You lost me at “being signed at WVU.”

 

[ohio herd]

No way. Been married to the same gal almost 30 years.

 

[Y.A.G Si Ye Nots]

Before this thread gets out of hand...did you bang her?

No, she's had children. I have a bit of a phobia over snatches that have had humans pop out of.

But I did make her get naked for me on Skype.

 

[Dreh_Nagi_HC_IM]

I've been in an open relationship for several years. I just have to hope my wife never finds out about it.

 

[Marine03]

No, she's had children. I have a bit of a phobia over snatches that have had humans pop out of.

But I did make her get naked for me on Skype.

Lol, dude you need to get over that phobia as you continued to get older.

 

[Dreh_Nagi_HC_IM]

No, she's had children. I have a bit of a phobia over snatches that have had humans pop out of.

With your women, I would be more concerned over whats popped into the snatch, as opposed to whats popped out of them.

 

[HFF-SLTX]

LMAO............

I agree with most of the comments on here, this is a recipe for disaster. I would be worried about being secretly taped and showing up all over the web porn sites.

But this stuff happens all the time. I was in my favorite restaurant/bar in Sugar Land, TX on a Friday about 4pm. One of the regulars that I spoke to frequently was a few seats from me. A girl sits in between us, starts up a conversation and after 30 minutes asks me, "Should I allow you to come home and f"**** me all night?" Then she invited me to her "house party" the next day. She gets up and heads to the ladies room and I start talking to the guy I see in there a lot. He says, "I see you met my ex wife, what do you think?"

Paid the tab, went down the street!

 

[WV-FAN]

Nope, wouldn’t do it and I have no idea how people can do it.

 

[Marine03]

This literally makes zero sense you fvcktard

 

[WV-FAN]

This literally makes zero sense you fvcktard

i know . . . but i also knew it'd piss you off and you'd call me a name.

 

[Marine03]

i know . . . but i also knew it'd piss you off and you'd call me a name.

Well, it worked Jeffy

 

[Raoul Duke MU]

Immaculate Ghetto-ception.

 

[Raoul Duke MU]

You could get shot. Get herpes. Show up and it is a dude. Show up and the husband is hiding and hits you with a crow bar. Husband is hiding and slams his Johnson in your ass. Or, the woman is bat shit crazy and is a stalker or worse cuts your Johnson off with a butcher knife.

Yeah, I'd be afraid it would turn out something like this:

 

[i am herdman]

No, she's had children. I have a bit of a phobia over snatches that have had humans pop out of.

But I did make her get naked for me on Skype.

A phobia of snatches that have had humans pop it.

Hate to break it to you and ask this, but how about snatches that have had other dicks in them?

You remind of the young buck I worked with one time. He was talking about tearing that snatch up. He would bust it up and destroy it. Kept talking about he would destroy it.

I was like son, I have seen child birth. You ain't gonna hurt that thing. Believe me.

 

[-CarlHungus-]

Just for clarification - you ok with moms that had c-sections?

 

[Y.A.G Si Ye Nots]

Just for clarification - you ok with moms that had c-sections?

Yes, that's not nearly as disruptive on the body, especially on the passage.

But mothers, especially breast-feeders, tend to have entirely different nipples after motherhood. I can usually always tell when a girl is a mother/was a breast-feeder because of this.

Hate to break it to you and ask this, but how about snatches that have had other dicks in them?
.

Those other cranks aren't permanently changing her body parts. That baby is.

 

[herdfan06]

LMAO............

I agree with most of the comments on here, this is a recipe for disaster. I would be worried about being secretly taped and showing up all over the web porn sites.

That may create a career opportunity.

Then she invited me to her "house party" the next day. She gets up and heads to the ladies room and I start talking to the guy I see in there a lot. He says, "I see you met my ex wife, what do you think?"

Paid the tab, went down the street!

To their house?

 

[raleighherdfan]

You guys need to quit giving rifle advice. He cherishes the opportunity to get screwed over due to his “consumerism”.

Think about it. We’ll miss the chance to read a 10 paragraph post 6 months from now, bitching how he is chasing some crack whore into the ghetto for the wallet she lifted from him after having her in his bedroom. How he thought nothing was irregular about her posted pics being different looking than when they met in person at the local Chile’s Restaurant. She promised (despite being nearly 60 yrs old) that she had never had kids and clearly had a killer body for her age.

 

[Y.A.G Si Ye Nots]

You guys need to quit giving rifle advice. He cherishes the opportunity to get screwed over due to his “consumerism”.

Think about it. We’ll miss the chance to read a 10 paragraph post 6 months from now, bitching how he is chasing some crack whore into the ghetto for the wallet she lifted from him after having her in his bedroom. How he thought nothing was irregular about her posted pics being different looking than when they met in person at the local Chile’s Restaurant. She promised (despite being nearly 60 yrs old) that she had never had kids and clearly had a killer body for her age.

This is as awful as @19MU88 's and @Brushy Bill 's attempts.

Really, before posting, the three of you should wait 15 minutes, then come back to the thread and see if you really think your posts are humorous. @ARandomHerdFan , will you tell liarherdfan that is he trying too hard, please?

 

[raleighherdfan]

This is as awful as @19MU88 's and @Brushy Bill 's attempts.

Really, before posting, the three of you should wait 15 minutes, then come back to the thread and see if you really think your posts are humorous. @ARandomHerdFan , will you tell liarherdfan that is he trying too hard, please?

You need help from random?? Christ. If it werent for Homer Simpson meme’s he may never post.

 

[HerdBuckeye]

You guys need to quit giving rifle advice. He cherishes the opportunity to get screwed over due to his “consumerism”.

Think about it. We’ll miss the chance to read a 10 paragraph post 6 months from now, bitching how he is chasing some crack whore into the ghetto for the wallet she lifted from him after having her in his bedroom. How he thought nothing was irregular about her posted pics being different looking than when they met in person at the local Chile’s Restaurant. She promised (despite being nearly 60 yrs old) that she had never had kids and clearly had a killer body for her age.

No I think it was your wife.

 

[raleighherdfan]

No I think it was your wife.

Huh?

 

[Brushy Bill]

This is as awful as @19MU88 's and @Brushy Bill 's attempts.

Really, before posting, the three of you should wait 15 minutes, then come back to the thread and see if you really think your posts are humorous. @ARandomHerdFan , will you tell liarherdfan that is he trying too hard, please?

I think the syphilis is rotting your brain.

 

[raleighherdfan]

I think the syphilis is rotting your brain.

Already got bucky’s apparently.

 

[Y.A.G Si Ye Nots]

You need help from random?? Christ. If it werent for Homer Simpson meme’s he may never post.

That should be "memes," ITT boy. Now, what were you saying about Bucky's brain?

 

[19MU88]

looks like Rifle is obsessing on a couple of posters and trying to pathetically bring his nut sucker into this. sad watching an old net legend fade away

we know rifle, we aren’t good at this but you are

 

[ARandomHerdFan]

If it werent for Homer Simpson meme’s he may never post.

You aren’t wrong. It not for the random meme here or there, I’d probably be a ghost on here.

 

[Y.A.G Si Ye Nots]

looks like Rifle is obsessing on a couple of posters and trying to pathetically bring his nut sucker into this. sad watching an old net legend fade away

we know rifle, we aren’t good at this but you are

You've now claimed about a half-dozen other posters to be "nut suckers" of mine. That's one thing you will never have anyone accuse you of; having fans.

 

[19MU88]

cause I dream of the day there fans of me in a message board. pathetic

 

[HerdBuckeye]

cause I dream of the day there fans of me in a message board. pathetic

Huh

 

[countryroads89]

I know someone who slept with a married woman a few times. She liked the sex so much, she thought she would be “smart” and tell her husband about it in an attempt to get him to divorce her. The guy I know got to inspect the gun barrel of the husband a couple of times. He lived to bang another day (no pun intended). Just something to think about.

 

[19MU88]

Huh

left out the word “are” i guess that was too much to figure out. don’t go on wheel of fortune