I have a general question for those who are against abortion, and it won’t offend me either way.
My wife and I struggled to get pregnant for over 5 years. We finally did, and at 16 weeks they noticed our babies kidneys were not fully developing. Over the next two weeks and a telemedicine with Cincinnati, they told us she had potters syndrome and viability outside of then womb was 0%. Her heart rate was great, everything was growing as normal.. but without any amniotic fluid, she was basically gong to run out of room and die in the womb.
Dr Burns did a great job at explaining our options, which were to either have an abortion in the next two days in WV (bc it would still be under the legal age), think about it but if longer than two days we would have to go to PA to a clinic because they could abort two weeks later than we could, or carry this baby until it died in the womb and delivery it at the hospital.
What is the right answer here? Who should get to decided what happens to our baby that was going to die?
We decided to carry her until her heart stopped then deliver, which was a painful 10 weeks after we first found out. And I was anti abortion up until this time, now I just feel like there should be some exclusions.
First of all let me say I am sorry to hear of your loss.
This is a deep ethical question and i will attempt to give you a simple answer to a complex issue. This is one of those rare, agonizing situations in which there are no simple or easy answers. There are situations that have no easy choice here is one to consider.
The mother is told that if she carries the baby to term such as in the case of an ectopic pregnancy she will risk death. This dilemma really involves is a
conscious choice between two equally precious lives. If the baby lives, the mother dies, and vice versa.
In some situations, such as a tubal ectopic pregnancy, both will die if the pregnancy progresses and no one intervenes. Is it our place to say that this woman – a woman who may be someone else’s mother, wife or daughter – must die in this situation?
I would add a crucial distinction here between therapeutic treatment and abortion: While a preborn baby may not survive treatment for an ectopic pregnancy,
the intent and goal is to save the mom’s life, not to end the life of the child. Such action is never done simply to take the preborn child’s life – the same cannot be said for an
elective abortion. Indeed, the often-used term “therapeutic abortion” is a misnomer since ending the life of a child is not a therapeutic act and is never,
in itself, necessary and sufficient to save the mother’s life.
The ethical principle governing this, and similar cases, is a long-standing one called
the principle of double-effect. It is explained in this way: an action which terminates in two effects, one good and one evil, may be undertaken if the action, by its nature, is not evil, and if the good end is primarily intended and the first to be executed, and if the good effect is at least equal to the evil effect, and if the action is necessary and is the least harmful means for attaining the good effect. The excision of the diseased uterus is immediately necessary and is the minimum that is required to save the life of the mother. The good and evil effects are equal in magnitude, since both mother and child, as human beings, have identical rights to life. In such instances there is said to be a conflict of rights, but not a denial of the rights of either party.
As to your question about term this is best decided by consulting with several health care professionals, family and possibly spiritual leaders and even asking for an Ethics consult for additional viewpoints.